The Father Show with Mike Thompson‘s Podcast

How to Deal with an Untimely Death

This week’s episode we talked about How to Deal with an Untimely Death with Dr. Ron Cohen who is known as the Mindful Psychiatrist. We know how difficult it can be to lose a loved one. He tells us about the shame and guilt men associate that pain with. Men sometimes think that they did something wrong. They agonize over why he wasn’t able to protect the child. Then there is the embarrassment we sometimes feel around other men. That you are not a good father. Dr. Cohen gives us ways to navigate the hurt, shame and guilt of losing a child. Once again communication is important. However, Dr. Cohen says that even when words are not spoken, there is a lot of communication going on. He lets us know that there is no one way to go through grief.  

High Conflict Co-Parenting and Effects on Children

This week’s episode features Janet Price a divorce and co-parenting coach, the CEO of JP Coaching & Consulting, Inc and Founder of Divorce & Thriving Beyond. A child-product of divorce herself, she was caught in the middle, well into her adult years, of a high-conflict co-parent relationship. Janet understands all too well what happens to the children when they are ‘caught in the middle and how that can follow you into adulthood. When she went through her divorce she was in court 5 times in a ten year span, accuse of sexually abusing her two boys,   and received a no-contact- order from the court. She said courts, at least in her case, are not gender pacific. Janet provides her services through: One-on-one coaching • Group coaching • Educational workshops • Private Parent Membership Community. You can find out more about her at  https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

How to Recognize and Prevent Bullying

On this episode of The Father Show with Mike Thompson we had Gordon B. Ortiz Hamby (aka. Verve Coach Gordon), who is a professional Educator, Trainer, Coach, and Author. One of his specialties is Bullying Prevention. He himself experiences bullying from adults and other students when he returns to college at an older age. Gordon explains why people get bullied. He says that Bullying is a learned behavior so it can be unlearned. He gives us the difference in face-to-face bullying and cyberbullying. He explains how self-value is so important. We talk about his book “11 Energies of the Verve” and how it is a book everyone can all read no matter their age. Gordon is also a public Speaker and Pod Caster.

Awareness of Human Trafficking from Nepal

Today on the show we had Ross Nancarrow who is the Executive Director of International Mission Ministries and the organization Every Daughter Matters that focuses on stopping human trafficking in Nepal. The information he brought should be important to every parent no matter where you live. Human Trafficking is a world-wide problem. He informs us that some kids from other countries end up in Nepal as a commodity. Children as young as 5 years old are sold for body organs parts, slaves, force marriage, prostitution, force labor and more. Very few kids are able to escape. Ross is going to great links to help save as many children as he can find. So many people don’t realize how bad of a problem human trafficking is. We as men really need to be knowledgeable of this world-wide problem. We as fathers need to recognize the red flags we may see in our children. Ross gives a little insight into his life growing up. 

The Masculinity Masks Men Feel They Have to Put On

Today we had Keith Edwards we are going to explore traditional masculine gender norms, the masks men feel they have to put on to perform, the consequences of wearing these masks, and how they can begin to transcend these external expectations to discover who they are underneath these masks and live with vulnerability, authenticity, and integrity. We discuss how masculinity can be different for a man in different states, cultural, religions, ethnic groups, and which one should I put on. Keith explains how authenticity masculinity is so important to a man’s well-being. He gives us a story of a man who wanted to mourn the loss of a friend but just couldn’t do it due to the masculinity masks he has worn for so long. He tells how to remove the mask that we have been wearing and become the man that they really are. At the end of the show Keith tells us how others can get in touch with him.

The Face of Fatherhood is Changing

This week’s episode we had Shannon Carpenter the author of The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad as well as the cohost of the DadhousePod. He is a nationally-known contributor on fatherhood/parenting/and at-home parenting. Shannon is a popular weekly columnist for the Good Men Project and a premier contributor to many parenting organizations such as City Dads Group. Over 14 years ago he became a stay-at-home dad. We talk about fatherhood mentorship. He says the numbers show that more and more dads want to spend time with their kids. We talk about paid leave for fathers and how important it is. He speaks on how women can hinder a man from being a more involved father. Shannon discusses why a man’s mental health is important to take care of.  His book “The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad gives a lot of insight from 57 other stay-at-home dads with humor and practical advice. You can find his books wherever books are sold including Flagship Books. Go to Dad House Podcast here: https://dadhousepod.com/category/episodes/

The Role of Men in Times of Challenge

This week’s episode is with Bill de la Cruz who is the CEO of DeLaCruz Solutions to discuss the role of men in times of challenge and how to address our families about what is happening in the world. He tells us how we as people develop biases. Bill grew up in a home with a not so kind dad and because of that he thought that was how all men were. When we hear a person say “Those People” it is from a biased viewpoint. He tells us how people were biased against him growing up. Everyone is biased in some way but we need to be self-aware. Bill tells us that to really make a real step in the right direction is dialog. Bill tells us how men need to have more dialog with each other that you have grown a bias with to help lead this world to be more peaceful. By us doing this it will show our kids to do the same. Bill gives us a little insight into his book “Finding the Origination Point” which is about finding the origination point to healing and understanding as to where a bias originated from. You can reach via email inclusiontalk@comcast.net, on Twitter or Instagram @billdelac, his website is delacruzsolutions. You can get his book by emailing him directly. Bill also has a podcast called “The Origination Point” . Go there and subscribe.

Reinventing Masculinity

This week on The Father Show with Mike Thompson our guest was Ed Frauenheim who is the Co-Author of Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection. He is a father of two teenage kids and a writer. Ed says masculinity is not confined to what our father and grandfathers did as mainly a protector, provider, and a conqueror. Men have become more involved, such as caregivers or spiritual seekers. Liberated Masculinity has open men up to being more involved with their kids, more expressive, and more loving to name a few. These changes not only benefit the child but also the father himself. Ed opens our eyes on how important relationships are in men’s life. Ed and the co-author have developed a formula based on research and speaking with other men called the 5 “C” that they suggest in order for a man to be more liberated. He also tells us how women can help liberate a man or hinder him.

Divorcing a Narcissism and Sociopath

This week on the show we had Chantal Contorines of The Divorce Hub and a Certified Divorce Coach discussing high conflict divorces with narcissist and or sociopath women. She gives you great advice as to what red flags you should be aware of. Chantal even explains how narcissists and sociopaths affect you once they have been a part of your life. She gives you a good idea of what to look for. She tells us what a man should be prepared for when he is about to divorce a narcissist or sociopathic person and where you can get help. Chantal warns us that they will try to turn your child against you. She tells us how men who are abused don’t talk about it and don’t seek help when they should. Chantal tells us the weapons that narcissistic or sociopathic women will use to make you suffer.

 
You can reach Chantal Contorines at chantal@thedivorcehub.ca

The Impact Fathers Have on a Healthy Child Development and How to Enhance Father’s Engagement

This week’s episode guest is Neil Tift who is the Outreach Coordinator for the Native American Fatherhood & Families Association (NAFFA) in Mesa Arizona. Neil is a biological father, an adoptive father, a grandfather of fourteen and a foster father. He starts by defining what is child development, when it starts, and the difference in the development of boys and girls in different stages of their development. Neil tells us the difference between how a mother interacts with a child compared to a father. He says as parents we help mode a male child’s masculinity. He explains how we as men can help young men and young ladies to stay away from gangs, young pregnancy, and dropping out of school, just to name a few benefits. He says 89% of men in prison come from fatherless homes. Neil explains the different ways girls and boys deal with issues, pain, and or trauma. He tells us how important it is for a father to teach a child impulse control. He tells us how kids spell love, T-I-M-E. 
Neil can be reached at neilt@aznaffa.org or by calling the organization at 480-833-5007.